I was at the Eurasian Club, along Jalan Pudu in Kuala Lumpur, last Sunday. It was the monthly lunch get-together for members and guests. Food and drinks galore with good music and dancing. Its a must place to be. Good food. Affordable drinks. Friends a-plenty. A little ...a lot of gossip. Always a fun afternoon to wile the Sunday away.
Amidst the drinking, dancing and singing, I noticed, from a distance, two charming ladies talking. That very moment , the band played the Club's favourite song, a Tammy Wynette hit, 'Stand By Your Man'. The dance floor was packed and almost everyone were elbowing for room to dance. As I watched these two ladies, I thought to myself, 'shall I ask one of them for a dance'. I hesitated. As the song drew to its conclusion, I meandered my way towards these ladies. Trying to behave as macho as possible, I gestured as if I was in no hurry, and said, 'I wanted to ask one of the two most pretty ladies in the club for a dance, but alas, the music has ended'. 'And why did it took you so long to ask either one of us for a dance?' asked Iris, one of the ladies. I sheepishly replied, 'I didn't think either one of you would want to dance seeing that you were deep in conversation'. Jacqui, the other lady said, 'You never ask, you'll never know. And since you did not ask, you'll never know right?' Then Jacqui told me something that really hit me like ten tequila shots ready to explode in your head. She said, 'You know Tony, many people asked me why I married a foreigner'. My reply was always this. 'Because none of you Malaysians had the BALLS to ask me to'. Wow! A kick in the teeth. Lost with words, and I'm usually not, I made my way back to the 'guys' corner and continued our drinking sessions.
It got me thinking. How true in life. When opportunity presents itself to us we either do not see it or we do not have the BALLS to seize it. Most of the time we are afraid of the objections and the challenges that come with anopportunity. And because of the fear of rejection, ridiculed, hard work, we trade in the riches that could come with this opportunity and settle for mediocrity. Whats worst, we try and justify our mediocre living because we were too afraid or too blind to seize the opportunity.
So thank you Jacqui and Iris. My Sunday at the Eurasian Club was an afternoon to remember. An afternoon that thought me that "Opportunity knocks on the door but once while temptations lie at the door step".