As I was driving to my Cafe this morning, I was glued to this radio station 92.9 Hitz. fm. The DJs, Rudy and JJ are really really good. Very entertaining. Very original. This morning they were getting listeners to call in and chat or comment about 'nasty neighbours'. I thought the idea was great. These days we hardly mingle with our neighbours especially when we live in upper class or upper middle class areas. Its bad to the extent that we sometimes don't even know their names. Anyway, what got me was when one of the DJs mentioned that if we do not have anything to say, it might be that we are that 'nasty neighbour'. How interesting! We almost always think that the others are the ones that are irritable, inconsiderate, unfriendly etc etc etc. not us.
This brought me back to the time when I just finished my form 3 exam. My friends, Primus, Koon Hong, Herbert, the late Sivalingam, Chee Keong and me of course were discussing something along the same lines as what JJ and Rudy was discussing this morning on Hitz. fm. The difference was we were discussing about mixing with 'bad company'. Koon Hong, the Rehman Rashid of the group, said, 'You know, my mother always reminds me not to mix with bad company in school'. Then he laughed and added, 'If only she knew that we are the bad company'.
But those were school days. Yet the same applies in adulthood. Someone once said if you want big fleas, hang out with big dogs. Nicely said. Motivational gurus constantly remind us of the importance of 'hanging out' with the right people. To be involved in a motivating and inspiring relationship group. To pick their brains, and to let our minds be stimulated by associating with them. The book of Proverbs has a wonderful saying..'In a multitude of counselors there is safety'. Yet even as humans, we have our short-comings. But never be disheartened. Just take the best and leave the rest. Be a sponge and absorb as much the wisdom of the wise.
Having said all that, the question is, 'Are we the kind of person others seek out to be with' or specifically, 'Am I the person others seek out to be with". Or am I the 'nasty neighbour' or the 'bad company'.